appreciating commitment

another insight from sir bibal's pro-love comm. i don't believe in coincidence. i believe in answered prayers.it really does answer so many questions..

COMMITMENT is an OBLIGATION. It is a decision; an act of will. It is a pledge or a "moral binding force" that must be translated to action.

This can only be done by "mature" people with "character." To be committed means to mature. This calls from the person CONSISTENCY in purpose and action towards that purpose no matter what the situation is. Rain or shine the goal must be achieved. This person does not seek something temporary like pleasures but something more lasting.

Essential to commitment are VALUES and PRINCIPLES. WE need to become committed to those values. We cannot be committed to pleasures like sex or food since these are temporary and superficial. VALUES are eternal and requires "effort" and "time" before they can be realized. LOVE is a value which needs work and time. It cannot be hurried or disguised. LOVE IS AN OBLIGATION that must be done with so much effort.

Someone who is still growing up and has not included long term values in his or her LIFE PLANS cannot understand what commitment is. But Our ability to become committed to some THINGS when we were young is a training ground to become committed to PERSONS. Give a boy or girl a task that he or she can perform alone and with excellence and you have found a character who can later on be committed to a partnership.

OUR LIVING OF VALUES AND COMMITMENT however is not steady and easy. As historical and physically grounded persons, we can sometimes be weakened in our strength, by our doubts or confront difficult situations or be tempted by better persons as options that will challenge our values at the center of our source of meaning and relationships. These challenges and tests however cannot penetrate deep if the persons involved are rooted deeply in values and principles.

MARRIAGE before God means to allow the divine and supernatural power to penetrate deep into the human dimension since human effort alone is not enough to succeed in one's commitment. This marriage is beautiful as both surrender to the INTELLIGENCE and a shared responsibility of the partners. TRUST is essential here between partners as well as absolute trust in God.